The art of suffering

It’s always so easy to imagine what you would like to achieve. More often than not people won’t achieve what they set out to do. 

This comes, I believe from how willing you are to suffer for it. This concept is one that I have slowly begun understanding from, The subtle art of not giving a f*ck - Mark Manson. I’m only half way through the book but can definitely recommend. 

The process of achieving a goal requires certain actions and certain sacrifices. A good exercise is to sit and assess, are you willing to make the necessary adjustments to achieve these goals? A lot of the time people realise they aren’t willing to make those changes and take on those sacrifices. In those situations it’s best to readjust your expectations. This is a concept from Your next five moves - Patrick Bet-David.

I’ve always tried to champion people to achieve more than they’ve originally set out for. I had considered that the correct mindset, not to settle. This mindset can cause friction with people and I can now appreciate if people have different aims. It’s also therefore important to understand that some individuals have readjusted their expectations. Don’t interfere with them. If you do, you are likely the one to answer to their frustration. 

Assess if you’re willing to endure the struggle. Allow the answer to this question to guide your expectations. If necessary go it alone and don’t alter others expectations to fit yours, they may not be willing to suffer along side you.